Category — Family

There are a lot of things needed to be done in Thailand. But first, the idea of sending your kids to engineering school, medical school, or law school has to end now!
That is one of the big reason that Thailand cannot grow more than it is now. Not everybody has a potential to be an engineer or a doctor. If your kid is so good at drawing and love doing it, you just can’t force him/her to become a doctor. That’s a reason on a personal level.
On a bigger level, Thailand needs to be more open to other jobs. Be more diverse and open to a new business even though it seems like a child’s play. (look at anime and game industry in Japan) Whatever your kids love to do, tell them they have your full support. (There’s a catch though. You not only give them full support, but you need to force them a bit as well.)
If you ask 100 high school students in Thailand what they want to “study” in college, about 80% would give you one of those set answers, engineering, medical, law, accounting…etc. anything that (their parents told them) makes a lot of money.
That’s alright, but it doesn’t help this country grow. We don’t want all of our brightest kids to grow up to be an engineer, a doctor or a lawyer. And those who failed to be one of those, be something else less in everybody’s eyes.
I’ll be proud if my daughter wants to become a gardener as long as she knows what she’s doing. She’ll become one of the best gardener you can ever think of. And that’s enough for Thailand.

1. There is no reason not to be nice to anybody unless they don’t deserve it.
2. It’s ok to let others take advantage of you a little, but never ever take advantage of anybody.
3. Everybody has something worthwhile to listen to even though they’re obviously stupid.
4. Don’t ever blame other people, fate, or luck for your own mistakes.
5. Remember everything worthwhile, and also remember some silly things, too.
6. If you’re like me, your biggest obstacle in life is yourself.
7. Be honest, don’t cheat and don’t lie
8. You will have to do things you don’t want to do a lot more than things you want to do.
9. Be nice to your dad when you’re a teenager.
10. Don’t just let anybody take your “being nice” as an opportunity to walk all over you.

Before and after a disastrous repaint of my bedroom. Well, I wouldn’t go so far and call it disastrous, but it didn’t turn out as we expected.

We want a Martha Stewart homey feeling, but it ended up looking like a really bad mediterranean type of room.

How did it turn out like this? It’s because we believe the sale person in the painting store rather than our designer friend. Our friend told us the actual color on the wall will be lighter than what you see on the color sheet. However, when we got to the store, the sale person told us otherwise. And we **cking believe her!

I guess we just have to adapt to what we have and change our decorating pieces to fit the color.

Is your child an extention of yourself?

I heard a lot of real life stories indicate that parents, especially fathers, tend to think about their children as an extention of themselves.

Of course, fathers always want what is best for their children. Sometimes, what is best seems to be what the fathers wanted when they were a child, but they never got it, or they never had a chance to get it.

Wouldn’t it be nice if human can inherit experiences and memories from their parents? We would never made the same mistake twice. We would never have to teach our children anything. And more over, our children can be exactly what we want without us having to tell them what they should do. For example, I had been trying to get in the PGA tour my whole life without any success. I could be sure that my children will be able to get in without much effort since they would have my experiences, abilities and memories.

No…that’s a silly thought. If humankind has that ability, our next generation will have to work even harder to get to where they want because everybody will be even better and harder to beat, won’t they?

The reason I write this message is just for myself really. I don’t want to make my child an extention of myself no matter how much I want him/her to be. I’ll have to come back to read my own thought later on.

You’ve heard about it. People say your life will change once you are married, or have your first child. I thought I understood what they meant. No…unfortunately I don’t.

All my life, I’ve never been the one who afraid of dying. I don’t care much for my health or my life. Why would I need to? I just need to enjoy every minute, every day of my life without having to care about anything. I don’t care what I eat as long as it tastes good. I know my wife is capable of living without me by her side. She could take on anything in the world by herself. That thought made me even more careless about my life.

Things have changed…

I’m scared of dying. I’m afraid I would die before my wife and kid could take care of themselves on their own. It’s more like an instinct rather than a rational thought. I think it embedded in all animal gene or DNA. You have to live your life long enough to carry and create your legacy.

Yes, I am going to be a dad in about 8 months.

I’m happy I’m going to be a dad. However, I don’t think I’m really excited like I should’ve been. A few people were even more excited than me after they knew the news.
Maybe the idea of being a dad is not sinking in yet. I have to give it some time to let it really grow on me.
Do I worry about my life and my family, you ask? Not at all! I’m an optimistic guy. I’m hopeful and I know that we can take on anything in the world and come out on the other end happy.

Watching the expressions show on their faces is very interesting. For some people who know us a little more than just an acquaintance, they’ll pause their reaction a little, thinking if they should be happy with me or sympathize with me. Most of them would just stay as normal as possible, wait and analyze my words if I appeared to be happy or not. If I seemed to be happy, they’ll be happy for me, of course.

It’s probably because they know that my life situation is less than perfect. It’s nowhere near the equilibrium. And what would this new addition do to my state of life right now? Who knows?

All I know is that I was just ready the moment I knew I was going to be a dad.

I’m getting more excited by minutes really.